Emotional strength is described as the ability to respond openly and vulnerablely in the face of intense emotional experience, feeling one's way deeper into the emotion to get access to the underlying functional processes driving action. This is a critical capacity for effective psychotherapy.
The Enneagram has three factors that determine an individual's degree of emotional strength: integrity, vision, and skillfulness. Integrity refers to how well-developed one's boundaries are-the degree to which one knows where others end and one begins. Vision involves one's sense of what it means to be fully human-who one wants to be-what one values, and how one lives out those beliefs in daily life. Skillfulness refers to how effectively one uses energy-whether it be physical or mental-to act on one's desires.
Each of these factors is represented within each of the nine types. Individuals with strongly developed boundaries but who lack clarity about their own identity will tend to be undifferentiated around other people. They may even be identified by others as "weak" or "wimpy." Such people often have many relationships, but they are never able to commit to anyone long-term because they do not know what it is they want out of life.
People with weak boundaries but strong identities usually identify as "one thing" or "some things" rather than completely undifferentiated.
A person who is emotionally strong is one who does not allow others to play on their emotions and make them unhappy or angry, and who can remain calm and in control of their emotions throughout a tough moment or circumstance.
It means being able to deal with situations that would cause most people to lose control. It means being able to go through difficult times without losing your cool. It means being able to face up to problems instead of running from them. It means being able to look at life's difficulties may they be physical, emotional, or both, and still keep your head held high.
Emotionally strong people know how to love and be loved back. They know how to forgive and be forgiven. They know how to live and let live. Most important, they know how to find the good in everyone and everything, even when there seems to be no reason to hope. And they do this even when the bad things people do to them outweigh the good by a long shot.
It takes courage to be emotionally strong; but being strong allows those close to you to trust you, to rely on you, and to love you even when you fail them. That is an honor worth fighting for.
Emotional expression is an indication of weakness. In fact, being aware of your emotions and making a conscious decision to express them with others (when socially appropriate) may be a sign of strength. Emotions are a vital part of human nature that guide us through difficult times and help us make important decisions. Ignoring or denying feelings is never a good idea; it can have serious consequences.
For example, if you suppress your emotions you may feel irritable and agitated instead. This can lead to anger problems later in life. Also, people will not want to be around you if you do not show emotion. They need to know how you feel about certain things so they can understand you better and get along with you better.
Expressing yourself emotionally is very important. It helps you deal with stressful situations more effectively and move on from negative experiences. The most effective way of doing this is by talking about your feelings with someone you trust- such as a friend or family member. They will be able to give you honest feedback which will help you improve yourself as a person.
Emotional bravery is the willingness to feel the whole range of emotional experiences, both joyful and bad. Assume there is a loud crashing sound, a stimulus that elicits a feeling. If we avoid feeling this sensation, then it won't help us understand how emotions work. Emotional bravery means being able to feel pain as well as pleasure, stress as well as relief.
People sometimes say that they would like to have more "emotional courage". What do they mean by that? They are asking for something that can only be given by learning how to feel pain and pleasure, stress and relief. The only way to have emotional courage is to learn how feelings work, so that you don't need to run from some things that make you feel sad or afraid. Then you can deal with anything that life throws at you.
Have you ever heard someone say that they were "brave enough" to do something? This person might have been describing their ability to face their fears. Being brave means facing our anxieties, worries, and stresses about something without running away from them. It means standing up for ourselves and others even when we're not sure what will happen next. Being emotionally courageous means having the courage to feel pain and pleasure, stress and relief.
People show their emotional courage in different ways.