That being said, we're all perpetual works-in-progress, and no matter your age, there's always room for emotional growth. And, if self-improvement and progress are your goals, it pays to be aware of the characteristics that are often symptoms of immaturity so that you can be on the watch for them in yourself (and in others).
Here are some traits that may indicate that a person is immature:
Feels empty inside
Needs constant attention
Is obsessed with material things
Has problems with authority
Tends to jump into relationships too quickly
Is often hurt by criticism and rejection
Is rarely satisfied with what he or she has
Is always looking for ways to improve himself or herself
Immature people are usually not happy with themselves, and this makes them look for ways to change themselves to make themselves feel better about themselves.
They tend to focus on their negative qualities instead of their positive ones.
Because they're looking for ways to improve themselves, they often take risks that could hurt them or others.
They think that making decisions is difficult, so they avoid them as long as possible.
Some symptoms of immaturity in younger children include: She need a little additional attention or assistance to achieve activities that her peers can do on their own. She lacks the physical coordination of other youngsters her age. When things don't go her way, she becomes quickly angry or overwhelmed, and she has difficulty calming herself down. Sometimes children with this problem don't understand why they are being told no, or they don't accept "no" as an answer.
Immaturity can also be defined as inability to cope with life's challenges. If you feel like your child is not growing up properly, perhaps he is actually experiencing some very normal stages of development but needs some help from you in order to grow into an independent adult.
The important thing is that you know what behaviors are signs of immaturity so that you can help your child progress toward adulthood.
There are several factors that may affect your child's ability to mature. His genetic make-up can cause him to develop more slowly than his peers. This is particularly true if he was born with low muscle tone or poor vision. A child who experiences malnutrition during growth spurts may reach puberty earlier than his healthier counterparts.
If your child was abused or neglected as a child, he may experience stress when confronted with situations that bring back painful memories. This can affect how mature he feels able to handle.
Immaturity manifests itself in a variety of ways, such as continually shifting blame, starting conflicts, or being passive aggressive, and it may frequently have serious interpersonal effects, even destroying relationships with friends, family, and lovers. Being immature can also lead to premature aging, because it is not possible to grow up properly if one is constantly surrounded by immature people.
Immaturity is the state of being incompletely developed; thus, someone who is immature will often show signs of development lagging behind that of an adult. For example, someone who is immature might still live with their parents, not because they want to, but because they can't afford a place of their own. Even when old enough to work, an immature person might still be found sitting in front of a video game or surfing the internet, because doing these things feels more important than finding a job.
In addition to being socially unacceptable, immaturity is also detrimental to your health. If you are not grown-up yet emotionally, then you are going to be faced with many challenges in this world. For example, if you aren't responsible yet for your actions, then you won't be able to say no to drugs or alcohol, which are commonly used by adults to deal with stressors in their lives.
Some immature actions are more problematic than others. Some people are undeniably irritating. Others consider you to be emotionally inexperienced, yet you aren't that dangerous. They just make more mature individuals giggle and say to themselves, "Ah, I remember being like that back in the day."
They pretend to roar like lions but have the hearts of mice. They come in different shapes and sizes, as well as from diverse ages and backgrounds. The odor of their huge ego reeking under the aroma of their perfume is the easiest way to identify them.
Just try not to appear painfully juvenile in comparison to everyone else your age. Because they are also young, your friends will not have outgrown many of their juvenile characteristics, and don't expect someone to behave twenty years older than they are.
People who were emotionally suppressed as children are frequently believed to be "mature" for their age, until they become older and the cracks in their psyche begin to show, at which point they are viewed as "immature" since they haven't learned how to express themselves effectively.
For example, if you were told as a child that your feelings didn't matter and you should just get on with it, then when you grow up you're expected to be an adult version of yourself, which means you should have all the same feelings that you had before you were told this by your parents or guardians.
But if you weren't given these feelings when you were a child, then how would you know what they are? What's more, even if someone tells you what your feelings are, without knowing them yourself, how can you trust what they say?
The truth is, nobody knows what you're feeling unless you tell them. If you don't open up to people then you'll never find out what they think about your feelings, whether they care about them or not, and whether they're willing to share their own with you.
So, yes, people believe you're immature because of what happened when you were a child. You see, emotions are like muscles; unless you use them they will always be weak.