Our core values are developed early in life and molded by our experiences and upbringing. They are extremely difficult to modify since they are so deeply ingrained. It's not that we don't want to change them, but sometimes we find ourselves facing a situation where we have to make a choice between what is right and what feels good.
For example, if you were raised with the belief that it's wrong to break the law, then it will be very hard for you to decide to commit a crime. Even if you know that you'll get away with it, you won't. You're telling me you'd do something like that?
The way out of this dilemma is to change your environment, to stop raising your hand in court systems that are rigged against you. This takes time and effort, but it can be done. There are many prisons everywhere in the world full of people who wanted to change their lives and couldn't.
The important thing is that you don't give up trying to change yourself or others.
The views a person has that determine how they perceive their events are referred to as core beliefs. For example, if someone believes that "the world is a nasty place," they would feel that individuals who are nice have an ulterior goal (being kind without reason just does not fit with their world view). If this person also believed that "people cannot be trusted," then they would feel that even those who seem friendly are actually trying to get something from them.
Core beliefs are very strong feelings that we automatically assume are true. We believe these things about ourselves and others because they have been taught to us since we were children. They do not represent actual facts but rather interpretations that we make of what happens to us. For example, if someone was raised by cruel parents, they might still feel loved after they grow up but wouldn't realize it until later in life when they find other people's kindness toward them. Then, they would understand that what they believed about themselves was wrong; however, because they felt inadequate without such love, they would keep looking for signs of it everywhere else in their lives.
Our core beliefs influence the many thoughts that pass through our mind every day. These thoughts will generally follow one of two patterns: positive or negative. If we tend to think only positive thoughts, it means that we are not allowing ourselves to experience any type of failure or disappointment. We are refusing to acknowledge anything bad that happens to us.
Our attitudes, regulations, and assumptions are influenced by our core beliefs. Our beliefs may hold us prisoner, creating a never-ending cycle of anxiety. You automatically analyze, assess, feel, and figure out what things signify as you move through life. If you believe that certain behaviors are correct or incorrect, good or bad, then they will influence how you think and act.
For example, if you believe that smoking helps people cope with stress, then it makes sense that you would also believe that getting sick when you're under pressure is something to be expected. This belief would lead you to smoke even in situations where it's not appropriate, which could put your health at risk.
Another example is the belief that money can't buy happiness. This belief is common among those who have found ways to satisfy their material needs who haven't bought into the culture of greed that has taken over this world. They see others around them struggling with debt and failure, but still maintain an attitude of gratitude for what they have.
People with this kind of philosophy are more likely to save rather than spend, invest instead of trade, and work hard while enjoying themselves.
Those who don't have this philosophy tend to use money as a way to control others or themselves. They might waste what little they have on meaningless purchases or addictive substances.