There's a sweet spot in the middle, where Goldilocks would exclaim, "Just right." It is the capacity to seem confident without being arrogant, to be humble while projecting power and expertise. This unique characteristic is known as "humility with confidence."
People with high levels of humility with confidence are admired for their frankness and lack of pretension. They can also lead others by example rather than by force or intimidation. In fact, true humility is never condescending or obsequious; it always respects its own and other people's dignity.
In addition, those who are very humble with confidence don't feel the need to protect themselves from pain or rejection. They know that vulnerability is essential to intimacy and trust. Also, they aren't afraid to make mistakes because they understand that we all do so every day. Finally, they stay focused on what matters most in life: God, family, friends. They don't get distracted by minor setbacks or daily hassles.
People find strength, courage, and hope in those who have high levels of this trait. They also feel comfortable being themselves around these individuals because they know that self-expression is accepted.
Finally, those who have high levels of this trait are able to achieve their goals because they don't focus on what others think about them.
Confidence is a sense of certainty that stems from an assessment of one's own strengths or traits. Arrogance is defined as an inflated perception of one's own significance or ability. First, arrogant people frequently assume that they have nothing to learn from others, therefore they act as if they know everything. Second, arrogant people believe that because they are intelligent, successful, attractive, etc., then other people should think the same of them.
Here are some examples of how these two traits differ:
Someone who is confident in themselves may say things like, "I'm sure I can fix this problem." Or "I know I can get this job." While someone who is arrogant might say things like, "There's no way I could fix this problem," or "I'd never get hired for a job like that."
Both confidence and arrogance come in degrees, so it's possible for someone to be a little bit of either. It's also possible for someone to be mostly one or the other; for example, a highly confident person who is also extremely arrogant sometimes called a "big-headed child."
Finally, both confidence and arrogance can be positive or negative factors in life. If you have confidence in yourself and your abilities, then you will not be afraid to try new things or fail at them. That is what makes us unique.
A person who is really self-assured may demonstrate vulnerability and even confess previous mistakes. Others value this characteristic highly. Arrogant people, by the way, are willing to sacrifice friendships or other connections in order to achieve success. Self-confidence, on the other hand, allows us to pursue our goals regardless of the status of our relationships.
Arrogance and self-confidence are sometimes used interchangeably, but they are not the same thing. Someone who is arrogant is also self-confident, but not everyone who is self-confident is arrogant. Arrogance is a personality trait that can either be positive or negative. There are two types of arrogance: subjective and objective.
Subjective arrogance is believing that you are better than others. This kind of arrogance comes from within and it can be good or bad. With good subjective arrogance, you know what qualities you have that make you special and you use them to benefit yourself and others. With bad subjective arrogance, you feel like you deserve more because of what you can give to others or what you can get out of life. Everyone has bad days when they seem like they could care less about anything; this is when they show their true colors. Even though some may not think so, most people do not like being around someone who is full of themselves daily. They find it difficult to relate to this person because they cannot see past the arrogance.
Confidence implies being confident of oneself and your abilities—not arrogantly, but realistically and securely. Being self-assured does not imply feeling superior to others. It's a quiet inner knowing that you can do it. Rather of feeling uncomfortable, you should feel secure. You should feel comfortable in yourself, so that you can try new things or take risks.
The dictionary defines confidence as "the state of believing with full trust and assurance." That's a good definition; however, it doesn't explain how you get to this state of mind. Confidence is a mental attitude. It's the belief that you can accomplish any goal you set your mind to. This attitude grows over time through experience. Learning from past mistakes helps build your confidence.
Sometimes we become discouraged when trying something new because we don't see immediate results. This is normal during first attempts at anything. Just keep working at it and soon you will start to see changes in your mind set. These changes will make you more confident of succeeding.