Is bragging okay?

Is bragging okay?

According to a 2016 research, boasting when you have the credentials to back up your statements, also known as justified bragging, is a positive, if rather arrogant, activity. Researchers discovered that people who remain silent about their accomplishments in an effort to be humble may be perceived as moral but less talented. The study's authors concluded that being proud of your achievements doesn't mean you're proud of yourself.

What is a humble bragger?

According to the study, humblebragging—defined as "bragging veiled by a complaint or humility"—makes others dislike you more than straight-up self-promotion. The findings were recently published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology.

Humblebraggers take pleasure in pointing out their own flaws while denying responsibility for their successes. They believe that they are less capable than other people, so they need to be told that they're good enough as they are. Humility becomes a shield for them to hide behind when they want to boast about something that makes them look better than they actually are.

People find humblebraggers annoying because they think it's unfair that these individuals get to enjoy the benefits of their accomplishments without contributing anything. They feel like there must be a way for humblebraggers to show their achievements and not come off as arrogant, but they can't figure out how. The truth is that humblebraggers don't see themselves as worthy of praise and therefore cannot accept it if they receive it.

Furthermore, humblebraggers often say and do things that are unintentionally insulting. For example, if someone tells a humblebragger that his or her work is excellent and that he or she should be proud of himself or herself, the person would probably go on to explain why he or she doesn't deserve such praise.

Why is humble bragging so annoying?

Harvard Business School researchers investigated the ramifications of how people display their successes. They discovered that attempting to disguise your accomplishments with humility comes off as fake. People who boast honestly are more appealing than those who humblebrag. This is because true modesty shows an honest appreciation for one's achievements and prevents one from claiming credit for others' work.

Humble bragging is not only obnoxious, it's also unhealthy. If you're inclined to look down on others, don't be surprised if this behavior is passed along to your children. The less we boast about ourselves, the better we can help those around us.

When does bragging become a form of personal bragging?

When people participate in thinly veiled attempts to make themselves appear good by identifying themselves with those who have accomplished great things, they cross the line into personal boasting. For example, perhaps a coworker you mentored was promoted and is now in a position of authority. You may want to mention this fact when you see him or her around the office.

You should also be careful not to brag about yourself or your friends too much. Some people find this kind of behavior irritating, while others find it entertaining. Either way, it's best avoided.

Finally, remember that modesty is appreciated more than you might think. If you're seen as humble enough to admit your mistakes and failures even after you've been identified by others as someone who boasts a lot, most people will forgive you for any indiscretions you may have committed.

What is bragging a sign of?

More often than not, bragging about one's abilities and successes is a symptom of insecurity and self-doubt, rather than confidence and self-belief. It is a title that appears to be used solely by those who do not think they have earned it.

How do you feel when someone is bragging about himself or herself?

You can get the impression that this individual is boasting because they are competing silently with you. But don't start bragging about every fantastic thing you've done. You won't go far this way, because the only thing worse than a bragger is two braggers. Then there's no end to the competition between them and you'll both be left feeling bad about yourselves.

The most effective way of reducing someone else's confidence is to deny them victory. If you see someone bragging about themselves, tell them how awesome they are then give them a little reward like saying "Yes, you're right, I am an amazing person." This will make them think that you agree with them and also give you a thrill because you're giving in to their ego.

People need recognition from others to feel important. If you stop telling people that they are great, they will start believing that they aren't so great after all. But just because you tell them often enough it will eventually sink in and they will realize that they are indeed awesome.

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Maria Moore

Maria Moore is a lifestyle coach who helps people live their best life by identifying their strengths, passions, and values. She also helps them develop the skills they need to take action and make things happen. She has been coaching for over 10 years and finds the best ways to help people reach their goals by using her own life experiences as a guide.

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