Emotional expression is an indication of weakness. While it's a good social skill to be able to act professionally even when you're not feeling your best, letting your guard down at socially appropriate moments isn't a show of weakness. It's human nature to feel pain and joy at times, and it's important to be able to communicate these feelings in order to keep relationships strong.
Being able to read other people's emotions is also an indicator of strength. Being able to look past the physical appearance of someone and see their true character; that's a sign of great wisdom. Having feelings is natural, but learning how to control them is what makes someone mature.
If you don't allow yourself to feel pain and joy, then you won't know what it means to be happy or sad. You may think it's normal to go through life without experiencing emotion, but that's not healthy. Without pain, there's no way to improve yourself. We need tears so that we can laugh, and laughter so that we can cry. Tears are a signal that something has touched you deeply, which is why many people say that they can tell if someone is honest by looking into their eyes. They see all our secrets, our failures, and our successes. They know us better than we know ourselves.
In fact, being aware of your emotions and making a conscious decision to express them with others (when socially appropriate) may be a sign of strength. Emotions are a vital part of human nature that guide us through difficult times and enable us to have meaningful relationships with others.
People look up to those who they feel comfortable showing their feelings to. It is not for someone else to judge your strength or weakness as a person if you choose to show the inside of you- emotional or physical- to another person.
Being emo isn't about showing other people how much pain you're in or how sad you are. It's about feeling that way and expressing those emotions somehow. If you can do this then you're one of the emos out there and we salute you!
Emotions are necessary for connecting with others and establishing healthy, successful social relationships. Being emotionless might impair your capacity to interact with people, leading to social isolation and loneliness. It can also affect how you deal with stress and trauma of all kinds: emotional pain that remains unprocessed can cause physical problems over time.
Being emotionless is different from being cold or callous. A cold person lacks empathy and compassion. They don't feel remorse when they do wrong and won't change their behavior unless forced to do so. A callous person doesn't care about other people's feelings and wouldn't be hurt if they were cut out of society. Emotionally detached people are aware of the effects that their actions have on others, but they don't get emotionally involved anyway. They don't feel sympathy or guilt and would continue to behave in a self-centered way even if someone cared about them deeply.
People look up to those who they believe are strong willed and determined. Therefore, appearing weak by showing excessive emotions such as anger, sadness, and joy can be very damaging to one's image.
There is some evidence that psychopathy is associated with reduced levels of hormones such as serotonin and dopamine.
Essentially, you will not be denied the ability to feel your feelings. Instead of being exposed to your emotions, you'll learn to regulate them. You will act more logically since your emotions will be less jumbled. To cut a long tale short, compartmentalizing emotions reduces the likelihood of mental diseases and overreactions. It's also healthy.
There are two types of emotional compartments: cognitive and behavioral. Cognitive compartments are like boxes in your mind; they can be used to separate different aspects of your personality such as your thoughts from your feelings or positive attributes from negative ones. For example, you might have one compartment for "intellectual" people and another for "emotional" people. The idea is that each type of person needs to keep certain things private - ideas and feelings about yourself or others. Hiding these parts of yourself from the world prevents pain and rejection. It also lets you interact with people more effectively since you aren't exposed to everything all the time.
The behavioral component of emotional compartments involves actions you take instead of thoughts. For example, if you have a problem trusting people, then you would develop behaviors to avoid getting hurt again. This could include not putting yourself in situations where you could be put in harm's way or not opening up to others completely.
Emotional compartments help us function better in society by allowing us to hide our weaknesses from others. They also allow us to deal with our problems without acting on them immediately.
When we carry our own emotions, as well as the emotions of others, it might just be too much. As a therapist, I encounter many clients who prioritize taking care of others over taking care of themselves. The great majority of them are introverts or persons who are extremely sensitive (HSPs). Taking care of others requires that we put ourselves last. This is not only hard to do but it's also dangerous because without self-care, we cannot meet the needs of those around us.
Sensitive people tend to have very strong feelings about things. That is what makes them sensitive - they feel more than most other people. Their intense reactions come from deep within and have nothing to do with being "overly emotional". Rather, they try to help others by giving their feelings voice. Doing so often causes them personal pain because no one wants to be told they're wrong or bad.
People who are overly sensitive can't handle being criticized or rejected. This is normal behavior for an HSP, but it can make you seem cold or heartless if you aren't careful.