If you're one of the 85 percent of individuals who suffer from poor self-esteem, it's time to address the problem. You may have a pleasant and prosperous profession by strengthening your confidence.
Self-esteem is how we feel about ourselves. It affects what we think about ourselves and our abilities. There are two types of self-esteem: subjective and objective. Subjective self-esteem is how we feel about ourselves. It depends on how much respect we give to our opinions. Objective self-esteem is the level of confidence that can be measured by others or based on facts. For example, someone with an objective high level of self-esteem would not fear rejection because they believe they are attractive enough to attract someone new every day. Someone with an objective low level of self-esteem might fear rejection because they believe no one will ever love them.
People with low self-esteem often have problems with anxiety. They worry too much about what other people think of them and this leads to depression. About 80 percent of individuals who suffer from depression also have low self-esteem. That's why it's important to take care of your mental health along with your physical health. If you aren't feeling good about yourself, it's hard to feel happy otherwise you're letting your ego down every single day. This can lead to anger issues, substance abuse, and even suicide.
The solution is not to boost one's self-esteem. Looking outward, beyond yourself and the people around you, and focusing on the Lord is the solution for low self-esteem. Consider the needs of the world around you, for the only way to overcome low self-esteem is to deny ourselves, take up our cross, and follow Him. The Bible contains many examples of people with low self-esteem who were encouraged to look beyond themselves and focus on God.
Jesus said, "If you want to be perfect, go ahead and try." (Matt. 5:48) He was telling His disciples that if they wanted to be like Him, they had to put aside their own desires and keep His commandments. Jesus also told them to love others as they loved themselves (5:46), which means that if they had doubts about themselves, they should doubt even more about their ability to love others. Perfect love drives out fear, and fear causes us to act in ways that would embarrass a psychopath. So if you are afraid to let others see you because you think they will judge you, realize that this is proof that you still have much work to do on yourself before you can call yourself perfect.
Paul wrote that we are "more than a copy of someone else," meaning that we are unique individuals who are supposed to live our own lives. However many things influence us to behave according to the world instead of following our own hearts, so we need to learn how to recognize these influences and stand firm against them.
How can I improve my self-esteem?
Ten strategies for overcoming low self-esteem
Low self-esteem may have a detrimental impact on almost every aspect of your life, including your relationships, employment, and health. However, you may enhance your self-esteem by following the advice of specific forms of mental health therapy. Consider the following steps, which are based on cognitive behavioral therapy.
1. Analyze the situation. What is the root cause of my low self-esteem? In other words, why do I think this way? Using thought experiments and past experiences as objects for reflection can help you understand how your beliefs were formed and provide some insight into their validity. For example, if one of your beliefs is "People will see me as ugly because that's what I look like," then imagining someone else being able to see yourself as beautiful would be helpful in changing this belief.
2. Identify negative thoughts. Negative thoughts are simply thoughts that lead up to unpleasant outcomes; for example, if I think about getting fired from my job, then that outcome will come true. All thoughts are subjective, so it doesn't matter what other people think about you. What matters is what you think about them. To change a negative thought, you need to replace it with a positive one. For example, if I think about getting fired, I could instead imagine myself being praised for my work.
3. Replace negative thoughts with positive ones. It is important not to overdo it when thinking positively.
Self-image and self-talk are two important components of self-esteem. People who are successful and optimistic have a good mindset. People who are successful and self-assured have good attitudes. Self-confidence stems from the conviction that one's efforts and talents will enable one to attain a goal. The more you believe you can do something, the more likely you are to achieve success.
Attitude plays an important role in determining our destiny. A negative mind cannot be cured overnight, but it can be cured through change of thoughts. A positive thinker believes he can succeed even if all odds are against him. He sets small goals that lead to bigger ones, and before long he is celebrating success. A negative person believes he cannot succeed because there are too many obstacles in his way. He gives up when faced with a challenge because he thinks it is impossible to win.
High self-esteem comes from having a positive outlook on life. You feel good about yourself when you accomplish something meaningful, reach for goals that are worthy, and take action towards your dreams. Being confident means believing in yourself and your abilities. It also means being comfortable with who you are and not needing others' approval to have a good opinion of yourself.
People with high self-esteem know their strengths and weaknesses, and are able to face challenges with courage. They don't let failures get them down, instead they use these experiences to grow and improve themselves.