Maintain an optimistic attitude. As the saying goes, practice makes perfect. Even if you don't have high hopes for anything, it's a good idea to practice thinking optimistically about the future. Begin an average day at work or school, for example, by considering all of the things that can go right that day. Then, when something unpleasant does happen, it won't seem so bad.
Expect good things to happen. It's not enough to hope for the best; you must also expect it. Focus on the positives of your situation and think about how your life is going to be better once whatever is bothering you has been resolved. For example, if you're waiting for some paperwork to be processed, imagine all of the things that will happen once you get the approval letter.
Put yourself in desirable situations. If you want to experience joy every day, then put yourself in situations where you will feel happy. This means taking risks and doing things that might not always go according to plan. But if you avoid situations that make you feel sad or anxious, then you are denying yourself some positive emotions.
Don't let negative people drain your energy. Whether it's someone close to you or a stranger in the next seat on an airplane, it's important to stay focused on what is truly important in life. Anyone who wastes their time focusing on the negatives will find it difficult to be positive about anything. Ignore them. Otherwise, they will continue to bring you down.
How to Handle Life's Expectations
Try self-help techniques.
Do things because you know it's the correct thing to do. Don't just do things because everyone else does. Expectations just come in the way of wonderful life events. Don't let expectations (particularly those of others) get in your way. You can't control what others expect of you, but you can control how you react to them.
The most important thing is that you live your life with intention and purpose. If you do that, then you'll be living up to all of someone's expectations.
Curiosity and humor will help you catch your unreasonable expectations. Evidence-based advice, current resources, and first-hand stories to assist you on your mental health journey. Morris advised knowing your expectations ahead of time. Make a note of all the false expectations you have for this week. Then check back in with yourself at the end of the week to see how you're doing.
He also recommended getting support from others who are not responsible for your happiness or misery. This could be a friend or family member, but it could also be someone who cares about you but has no say in what happens to you. They can help remind you that things aren't as bad as you think, and they can also give you something to look forward to every week.
Finally, take care of yourself by doing things you like and that make you feel good inside. Exercise, eat well, get enough sleep; don't neglect yourself.
These ideas may not work for you, but keeping an open mind will help you find what does. The most effective way to deal with unrealistic expectations is by being aware of them and having a plan of action if they arise.