Begin by writing down your general beliefs in order to identify beliefs that are limiting you. Write down your beliefs on anything that you are passionate about and that has an impact on your everyday life. Sort them into categories such as finances, family, relationships, and health. Note any patterns that may emerge from this exercise.
Self-limiting beliefs can also be called "unrealistic expectations". If you believe that you cannot do something, then it is not possible for you to achieve. For example, if you believe that you are not capable of loving someone else, than it is impossible for you to get out of your current relationship.
Our thoughts have a huge impact on our feelings, and our feelings influence the things we choose to do. If you believe that you are not capable of loving someone, than it will be difficult for you to feel love towards them. This lack of feeling will make it harder for you to stay in the relationship and work on improving yourself and your partner's opinion of you.
Take time to really think about what aspects of your identity are based on these beliefs. Are you telling yourself that you are stupid, or that you are incapable of changing? Once you understand how these beliefs came to be, it becomes easier to let them go.
These days there are many different ways to work on changing your beliefs.
Examine your actions. Another method for identifying limiting beliefs is to examine your conduct. Consider circumstances in which you responded negatively or toxically and consider why. If you examine your harmful actions closely, you may realize that the underlying reason is limiting beliefs. For example, if you frequently get into fights with others, it might be because you believe that people cannot be trusted, so you should protect yourself from being hurt again by not putting yourself in dangerous situations.
Take responsibility for your thoughts. The more you blame other people for their actions or things they have done, the more you are taking responsibility for their behavior. Even if someone does something wrong, it does not mean that you bear some sort of guilt for their actions. You only feel responsible if you think about what happened and tell yourself that it was your fault. For example, if you hit another person in the street because there was a car coming, then you are not responsible for hitting them. But if you kept thinking about how fast that car was driving and told yourself that you should have moved out of the way before they struck you, then you would feel guilty for getting hit.
Learn from your mistakes. If you realize that you have been acting according to a limiting belief and you come to understand why it is limiting, then you can begin to change it.
Limiting beliefs are erroneous ideas that keep us from following our dreams and ambitions. Limiting beliefs might prevent you from doing critical things like applying for your ideal career or finding (or leaving) the relationship you desire. These beliefs are often not recognized as such, but they do limit your potential for success.
Here are some examples of limiting beliefs: "I'm not smart enough to get into university," "You need a degree to be successful," "Only people with money can afford a house." Such beliefs are common and prevent many people from achieving their goals.
Changing limiting beliefs is only part of the solution; you also need to change your environment so that it supports your new beliefs. For example, if you believe that you can't succeed in a certain field because you're not qualified, then getting qualified will help prove this belief false. Alternatively, if you believe that you can't afford a house, then looking at houses below your means will help prove this belief false.
So yes, limiting beliefs are very real, and they can hold you back from living your best life. However, you can overcome these beliefs by taking action on both the mental and physical levels. On the mental level, you must recognize your limiting beliefs for what they are- negative thoughts - and replace them with positive alternatives.
Identifying your limiting ideas and thoughts