When you've suffered a setback, it's tempting to believe that you'll constantly fail in this area of your life. It's simple to start believing that you're a failure. Don't succumb to such a damaging, yet attractive, self-fulfilling prophesy. Instead, remind yourself of the following:
There will be times when I succeed at something. And there will be times when I fail.
The only thing that can stop me from failing is me. No one else can do it for me.
I may fail at some points in my life. But I'm not going to let myself believe that I'll fail in everything I try because we all have success stories even though they don't seem like it now.
Failure is an important part of success. If you want to succeed, you have to fail at something. You can't succeed without failure. The more you fail, the better you get at failing. The more you fail, the closer you come to success. If you keep doing what you've been doing, you'll keep getting what you've been getting. That's why people who fail at something often find a way back up again. They learn from their mistakes and move on.
So yes, you should feel bad when you fail. But you shouldn't feel bad about yourself overall or believe that you're a total failure.
Failure isn't all that horrible. Sure, it will sting on the day, but you will quickly recover and go on. It's all about being able to convince yourself that failing isn't such a huge issue. You may always retake the exam if you make mistakes the first time. Or maybe try another subject for your degree.
Life after failure is completely up to you. If you want to keep going, then you should be prepared to put in some more effort. Perhaps change your career path with no experience outside of school work? That might not be a good idea unless you can find some way to keep earning money.
The most important thing is that you don't let your failure get you down. Remember that you have already achieved something remarkable - reaching a goal even when you fail. Keep this in mind and you won't feel so bad about yourself.
How Do You Handle Failure?
The sooner you accept that failure is an unavoidable part of life, the sooner you will be able to learn from your mistakes, stumbles, and failures. When you fail, you can do one of two things: (1) Play around with it and see if you can get it to function. (2) Accept that it will never work, and then move on to the next concept. Either way, you are still alive, and can still learn from your mistakes.
Failure is not only acceptable, but expected of everyone at some point in their lives. No one is immune to failure, because no one is perfect. So yes, failure is a part of life.
The more you try and avoid failure, the more pain and suffering you will cause yourself and others. It's time for you to stop punishing yourself for what happened in the past and start moving forward with your life.
How to See Failure as a Positive Thing
People who succeed frequently failed many times before they got it right. You see every setback as a chance to reroute and improve. Life is all about progress and venturing beyond of one's comfort zone. Remember that failure is usually followed by success, therefore don't be scared to fail.
Everyone fails, but the key to success is to learn from it. Learning from failure is difficult because it requires you to recognize that you failed and that things did not go as planned, which is fine. Consider failure to be a learning experience that will only help you go forward. Without failure, there would be no progress; evolution depends on failure.
Failure is necessary for progress to occur. If everything you try fails, then you can only improve your skills set. A successful person is one who overcomes their failures.
So yes, failure is essential for success.
Progress requires failure of some kind. If you were to succeed in something, then that thing would not be considered progress. Now, if you never failed, then you would never learn or grow as a person. That would be boring and not very fun. Failure is part of life, so deal with it gracefully and keep moving forward.
Successful people have failed, many times. They just choose not to let it hold them back. Instead, they use their failures as motivation to work harder next time round.
If you want to become successful, you need to think about how you can fail at something. Then, you should try your best to do so!